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Common Reasons for Couples Counseling
Criticism, Contempt, Stonewalling, or Defensiveness
Difficulty communicating, including feeling misunderstood, having difficulty explaining your position, or not understanding your partner’s position
Feeling that disagreements are never truly resolved
Disagreement on major relationship issues including parenting or finances
Differences in opinions and/or backgrounds
Change in the sexual relationship, communication, affection, etc.
Feeling like one or both of you don’t fight fair and need help with conflict resolution
Contemplating or participating in an emotional or sexual extra-marital affair
Sexual problems, including disagreement on frequency or technique or lack of sex for several weeks or months
Grief, trauma, or major life stressors like job change, move, change in family dynamics, etc.
Conflict with in-laws and/or extended family members
Work/life balance concerns, including managing household and parenting tasks
Feeling more like roommates than romantic partners
Considering separation and/or divorce
Deciding whether marriage is right for your relationship or not
Which Couples Counseling Approach is Right for Your Relationship?
Imago Relationship Therapy
The goal of Imago Relationship Therapy is to transform conflict into opportunities for connection and growth.
Imago uses the Couples Dialogue to restructure communication into an effective tool that increases understanding and connection. Couples are encouraged to a Relationship Vision Statement to stay focused as they learn new skills and explore their relationship and themselves as individuals, including the real reasons we choose our partners.
EFT for Couples (EFCT)
The goals of EFCT are to re-organize emotional responses, change relationship patterns, and encourage a secure bond between partners.
Gottman Method Couples Therapy
Developed by: Drs John and Julie Gottman
The Gottman Method of Couples Therapy is a structured approach to couples counseling, starting with an assessment and integrating research based interventions. Gottman Method starts with teaching new skills before increasing intimacy and developing a shared meaning.
The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy include disarming verbal conflict, increase intimacy and respect, and increase empathy and understanding.
Discernment Relationship Counseling
Developed by Dr. Bill Dohtery
Discernment Counseling is a process for clarifying if a couple wants to end their relationship or commit to work through their relationship concerns together.
The goal of Discernment Counseling is to understand how the relationship got to this point what what each partner needs to be motivated to continue in the relationship or to be confident in the decision to end the relationship.
Tim Mallory is a Marriage and Family Therapist, Prepare/Enrich Facilitator and Great Start Facilitator with experience in both EFT and Imago relationship therapies. He loves working with high conflict couples.
Erin Myers is a Marriage and Family Therapist, who has experience with EFT and is trained in Gottman 1 and 2. Erin loves working with intercultural couples as someone who is in an interracial marriage herself.